In Amos Oz’s novel My Michael Oz depicts a struggling
relationship between a young husband and wife. He explores many tangible and
intangible reasons why their relationship struggles. However, the reason that
stuck out the most to me is summed up through a statement their child Yair
makes to his mother. He says, “For you everything is possible. Daddy takes care
what he says and he doesn’t talk from his thoughts. Only from his brains” (p.
181).
Throughout the novel Hannah is
continuously daydreaming. At one point she reflects on an attack of diphtheria
that she had when she was young saying. “When I recovered…I experienced a
feeling of exile. I had lost my power of alchemy, the ability to make my dreams
carry me over the dividing line between sleeping and waking” (p.17). She
continues to attempt to lose her grip on reality through reading books or
spending time staring out the windows daydreaming. We, as readers, see Hannah’s
fascination with fiction through her continuous reference to books she has
read. She distances herself from reality by comparing and replacing reality
with elements of fiction. When she goes to a lecture with Michael she describes
the lecturer saying, “by the dim light of the magic lantern I was free too to
contemplate the features, the arm, the pointer of the ancient lecturer, who
looked like an illustration in on e of the old books I loved. I remembered the
dark woodcuts in Moby Dick” (p. 4).
Later in the novel, Hannah attempts to explain her side of a disagreement to
Michael in terms of the story of Cinderella. She says, “I tell you, Michael,
that prince was an utter fool and Cinderella was out of her mind. Maybe that
was why they suited each other and lived happily ever after” (p. 165).
Michael does not understand the
Cinderella analogy that Hannah uses. This lack of communication is a constant
theme throughout the novel. At one point Hannah tries to compliment Michael’s
research piece and he takes her compliment badly saying that, “He was
sorry…that he wasn’t a poet, that he couldn’t dedicate a poem to [her] instead
of a dry piece of research. Everyone does what he is capable of” (p. 118).
Michael is grounded in reality. He has spent is life studying and researching
the physical world around him. There is not any room in his mind for imagination.
As his son says, “he doesn’t talk from his thoughts. Only from his brains” (p.
181). This stark difference between Michael and Hannah’s takes on reality is
one of the largest causes of tension in their marriage. They do not understand
each other, because their passions speak different languages. On one of Hannah
and Michael’s first dates Michael takes Hannah for a taxi ride. Hannah
describes their conversation saying, “He said ‘Pre-Cambrian,’ ‘Cambrian,’
‘metamorphic rocks,’ ‘igneous rocks,’ ‘tectonics.’ For the first time then I
felt that inner tension which I still feel whenever I hear my husband talking
his strange language.
I do not think that couples must
have exactly the same interests for their relationships to work. Actually quite
the contrary, I believe that differences can be healthy in a relationship. What
I was really struck with was how Oz portrayed this conflict of passions and
lack of understanding. He shows the reader the importance of communication, by
emphasizing how little they understood each other’s passions and how much this
in turn affected their relationship. I believe that Oz intends for the reader
to see the necessity of focusing on learning about others instead of focusing on
ourselves. I personally see how many of the conflicts I have had in
relationships could have been avoided if both parties had made an effort to
understand each other’s passions and speak each other’s figurative languages.
This is a well written little essay on an important theme in My Michael. I think you are absolutely on target as regards the relationship between Hannah and Michael. The next step in this thinking is to explore what the Hannah/Michael relationship might tell us about female/male interactions as they are traditionally construed and how it parallels the relationship between Jerusalem and her suitors. There are other uses you might make of these insights, of course. Nicely done.
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